Dina:
A week in.
Kelly and I met and discussed the nutrition and exercise plan. We agreed that I could continue to make substations on the nutrition piece as long as the substitutions were close matches to the original items. She is also going to give me some additional dinner options as I am trying to get the family to eat with me so I need to change it up a little or the kids will lose interest. My exercise routine had to change, so now I am doing something different 4 days out of the week – swimming, walking, TRX and Yoga. I can include more walking if I want to, but 4 days a week is a very realistic goal at this point in the game. We agreed to a weigh-in 2 weeks from now to make adjustments to caloric intake based on new exercise routine.
Our discussion got a little (okay…a lot) emotional when we talked about the nocturnal eating situation. I have an internal alarm clock set for 3:00am. We used to do blood sugar checks on my son at this time. At the advice of our Diabetes Nurse Educator, we have stopped those checks as his numbers have been really good. But I omitted a piece of information from our conversation. And I am not sure exactly why I did because I trust Kelly implicitly. Maybe I was afraid of saying it out loud like a self-fulfilling prophecy or I didn’t want to start crying. There is a syndrome where Type 1 children inexplicably have an extreme low blood sugar episode during the night that causes sudden cardiac arrest. There are no signs or symptoms, no warnings or indicators. So my 3am alarm clock??? Checking to see if my son is still breathing…
Again, not sure why I omitted that information. As a future Food Psychology Coach, it is something I would want my client to disclose. We set a goal for sleeping through the night and I was so totally good with it as I probably have not slept a full night in 6 years. But is that realistic knowing what we know now??
"Nothing to it but to Do it!"
Kelly:
As a trainer, I’m realizing more and more that I shouldn’t be surprised that any client withholds information. Going through a process like this is very, very layered.
I think that part of the reason why Dina was so emotional is because she thought she may feel very emotional again and didn’t want to do that in front of me “again”. Now, if you know Dina, can you hear the word “again” the way she would say it?...that puts a spin on the word “a.g.a.i.n.” doesn’t it? Dina doesn’t like to do anything “again” that is uncomfortable. She’s realistic. Does anyone? Dina thinking she’d be emotional and withholding the information was her subconscious’ safety place. We all have one…..
What would have changed if Dina shared her fear, right there, just at that moment in the office at the studio? Your answer: ____ My answer: that’ll come later. Dina’s answer:…she’ll have to tell us. (see, there really is 3 sides to every story!)
Support systems are people you can and should trust. Support systems let you cry, cheer, be shy, tell a story AGAIN AND AGAIN. Support systems help your subconscious speak & emerge. Dina has allowed me (thank you!) to be part of her support system. I think next time there is an “again?” or “again!” moment, we will both have, and hopefully everyone reading this blog, learned from this.
Your support system needs to be huge! Whatever your definition of huge is. Imagine this:
You’ve been hyping up for something you’ve been doing for the last (X) amount of time. You’ve put it all out there; it’s your big day! Let’s call it Your Show. Just before Your Show starts you peek between the curtains before you come out on stage! “Geez”, you think, “that can be a big crowd out there, a big scary crowd.”– but this is the exciting part – don’t your really just love thinking of all the support you have waiting to see you for Your Show? Could you imagine if you peeked between the curtains before Your Show and there was only ONE person sitting there? &*%$+)!!#, where did your support go? But you’ve been working on this for (X) amount of time! Remember, support is here for you if you are receptive to it, if not, then more work needs to be done within yourself. When you’re ready, so is the crowd. I truly feel Dina was not afraid to tell me about Death In Bed syndrome, she was afraid of the emotion due to the thought. Your subconscious is not you, your thoughts are not you, these are all things that are only a small part of you and Your Show.
This holds true for what you think that big scary crowd would think, would it be what you said or are you more afraid of your emotions and how you felt about Your Show in front of only ONE person. Would you think “what a WASTE?” or no? You decide. Are you ready to show yourself as a successful person no matter what it is? FEAR OF SUCCESS, OR FEAR OF SUPPORT?
"If You Can Change Your Mind You CAN Change Your Body"
Kelly LaCasse
Fitsique Body & Mind
www.fitsiquebodyandmind.net
kellylacasse@verizon.net
Dina Wiroll
Feed Your Soul
www.feedyoursoulnow.com
dina@feedyoursoulnow.com
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