Kelly:
Trainer Point of View:
We took Dina’s measurements:
Neck: 13.5
Shoulders: 42.5
Chest: 40.5
Bicep L 12.5 R 12.25
Forearm: L 10.5 R 11
Waist: 34
Hip: 41
Thigh: L 22.75 R 23.75
Calves: L 17.25 R 16.25
Dina’s body is definitely shifting. My first suggestion is that Dina begins doing every exercise starting with her left side. She’s lost approximately 4” overall. We weighed Dina on the Random Number Generator. If Dina wants to disclose that information, I will leave that up to her.
Not sure what was happening in Dina’s day prior to TRX; there was a very tired (in her words) Dina that walked into the studio. She got out a little frustration by telling me that I was “cocky” that morning. I choose to call it confident, some might call it intimidating. I thought I was just trying to “beat a tough crowd”. However, good for Dina because within the next few minutes she was focused and had an amazing workout. Her head was in the game, love that! But, you know what? If I was cocky, screw! I. Don’t. Care!
There are many times that clients walk into the studio, or me into their home, and it’s almost like they have their tail between their legs/”tired”/busy/etc…. What is THAT? What is that walk, what is that mood they bring? (I have a feeling I know…) Rest assured, no one, I mean no one, has ever left like that. If they did, they’d NEVER return or vice versa me leaving them. Clients come to me for support and I feel like each client needs that/those individualized moment(s). Everyone deserves support!! Even if it’s a sentence that makes them feel at ease, then it’s a better day for them.
Dina and I chatted about support. It’s a b I g G e R word than some realize.
If anyone is reading these blogs and think that any of this content is cliche` then you are reading this in the wrong context and you should consider reading a book called The Four Agreements. I happen to have it on CD and I’ve listened to it at least a dozen times in the last 2 years. Anyone that doesn’t know me personally, I’ve changed many, many things in my life in the last 2 years, so I’ve had no choice but to listen to this book on CD several times because each time I listen to it, I hear it differently. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, you need support. I don’t mean the typical definition of support, erase what you think about that word, go deeper. Report and repeat that meaning back to yourself after you’ve really considering it long and hard.
Dina has months of work ahead of her and a vision of a consistent new lifestyle. Lifestyle is how it needs to be seen every single day moving forward. That is not happening right now. She’ll get there with the right support. If you want to show Dina that you are here for her and care about her new vision of herself, give her a “like” on her facebook post for this blog. Don’t we all need a “like” every now and then or what’s wrong with everyday?
Here’s what I’d like to suggest:
Just like we did with the Random Number Generator (scale), I want Dina to throw away the 7th grade 25 year old photo. To compare yourself or anyone or anything to 25 years ago is mentally, emotionally, or in this case even physically, not realistic.
1986.
Something happened that year or around that time. I don’t think it was pink eyeshadow.
On Day 1 I posted this and now I’m going to hold myself accountable:
Review each day of nutrition up until that point
Coach questions & answers
Coach following week strategies
a. Any days with hunger or not (we know we have a great Day 1 with this!)
b. Any days tired or excitability & why
c. Any days of inconsistency & how to avoid
d. Planning following week’s schedule for home, exercise, shopping, studying, work..
e. New meal plan
f. Strategizing the increase of calories (this could be 1-3 wks away)
g. Decreasing stress levels
h. Review next session for weigh in and or measurements (this could be weeks out)
i. Consistent positive reinforcement
j. Listening
Day 1 vs. Dina
0 - 1
Day 2 vs. Dina
? - ?
-We have not reviewed each day. Dina told me she was following the:
55% carbs
20% fat
25% protein
We discovered today that she was not on par. I am helping her with that. We had a great converstation!
-I have coached all Q & A
- We have not met each week(vacas, etc). We are scheduled every Monday going forward.
- There has not been any days of excitability
- There have been too many days of being tired. Dina is working on the “Why” of this.
Trainer Note: if you are not getting proper sleep, success is that much further away. It’s Scientifically proven. I’m not grabbing at straws here.
-Her calories went from approx 1300 to 1606 today.
-Dina has her stresses, but can work on identifying them better. I have found that there is nothing I can do just yet aside from making her laugh her ass off and helping direct her with her exercise regimen. She seems very happy with what we’ve suggested. She is stressed somewhat about not getting enough cardio. Cardio is not a diet program…you can cardio up all you like, it’s only going to get you so far. (We can talk all about that in another post)
-I feel I’ve been a consistent reinforcement, maybe it’s not all positive, but it’s all real baby, no fake shit, no cucumber sandwich with tea over here.
-What have I done that might not be right? Answer: not meeting every week. Although this has been a combined, eh—hemmm, effort, needs to be more consistent. I made the promise and I plan on getting to work on my end.
-What else can I do to support and help? I can work on finding better questions to ask Dina. I can find more direct questions. I can help Dina find words about 1986 and relate them to her new lifestyle. I will have Dina send me a weekly log from Lose It! via email. Starting tomorrow Dina. Thanks!!!! Last and was hoping always least and although it’s against almost everything I stand for as a trainer, I may start weighing Dina every week.
I hope I just gave everyone that reads this big eyes and raised eyebrows.
"If You Can Change Your Mind You CAN Change Your Body"
Dina:
The Random Number Generator said 175. 2 lbs weight loss in 40+ days. Pfft…
However, I am quite pleased with losing 4 inches. It should be more, but I am happy with that progress. Notice, I did not say satisfied.
So what is the problem? As Kelly said, we adjusted my fat/carb/protein ratio and added calories. I agree to sending Kelly a weekly Lose It! Log. I am not drinking enough water. I am not getting enough sleep. My energy level is not where it should be. There are easy fixes to all 3…and I intend to initiate those fixes this week. Melatonin (liquid form), water (flavoring purchased) and start focusing my energy on the positives and eliminate the energy-sapping negatives I have in my life.
I am going to be honest here – some of the stresses in my life cannot be changed. I have a son with a chronic disease that requires daily attention. I have a husband with a high-pressure and sometimes dangerous job. We have decided to live on one income so I can be available for my children which can sometimes cause some financial stress. I am trying to launch my own business to generate income, keep my schedule flexible and help other people. Those are things I cannot change. But what I will always maintain about our life is that it is not any harder or any easier than yours. It’s just different. Sometimes those “differences” get the best of me mentally and can be exhausting. Sometimes it’s easier to say “I’m tired” instead of “I’m mentally drained and tapped”…either way, neither should be carried into the beginning of a workout.
Someone recently read the blog and sent me a text that said “Wow, she (Kelly) was really hard on you.” My reply was “She was???” Kelly and I have a fantastic, open and honest relationship. She is my friend, part of my support system, AND my trainer which is an interesting position to put her in. I WANT her to be honest with me about my progress, while laughing our asses off and providing support. Not all trainers take on all 3 roles and I am so very thankful that she does. Make no mistake, she is a personal trainer and training is her JOB. So if she is hard on me, I most definitely needed her to yank a knot in my ass and get me refocused and headed back down the right path. Which brings me to the topic of support. YOU cannot begin a journey like this without SUPPORT. In your home, at Weight Watchers, on Facebook…whatever is comfortable for you…but you HAVE to have support.
Things I have accomplished today:
I packed the photo away. In my basement, in the bottom of a Rubbermaid tub. And I am working on putting the image in that same tucked away place inside my mind.
I am working on tuning into my body more. To rest when I am tired. To pay attention to my “before sleep” routine and see how I can make changes to facilitate better, longer sleep.
I stopped beating myself up about “the number”.
I thanked the Universe for bringing my friend Kelly into my life. Her personal training is having further reaching effects than just a change in my body. If you ever have the pleasure of working with someone that can change your perspective or make you pay attention to the Universe a little bit more, be grateful.
And 2 things I want to address VERY specifically:
1. Cocky. Not a bad word. Confident would be been MUCH better. Although now that I think about it, I like CHEEKY even better! Just kidding..The room that morning was VERY low energy and Kel was just trying to get us up and motivated...
2. Did I read that right? Random Number Generator EVERY WEEK???????
"Nothing to it but to Do it!"
Kelly LaCasse
Fitsique Body & Mind
www.fitsiquebodyandmind.net
kellylacasse@verizon.net
Dina Wiroll
Feed Your Soul
www.feedyoursoulnow.com
dina@feedyoursoulnow.com
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